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As a man, I often felt like I was contributing very little. I watched my wife go to countless appointments and saw how much the process took a toll on her, both physically and emotionally. While much of the focus is understandably on the woman, people often don’t consider how deeply a man wants a child as well. For me, IVF meant learning how to give unwavering support to my spouse while also trying to stay positive, even when uncertainty and fear were always present. Before I

The idea of doing IVF in Mexico came from Reddit. Reddit has been my best friend through all of this. It’s where I found people whose stories looked like ours. People who spoke honestly. People who helped me understand what was happening and what options actually existed. When I realized we didn’t have to go into crushing debt to try IVF, it felt like a light turning on. I didn’t have to return to the clinic that had already taken so much from us. I could research. I could ch

We’re at what feels like the halfway point. The space between years of trying on our own and whatever comes next. The years behind us were filled with month after month of disappointment. The year before IVF was the hardest yet. Two rounds of IUI. One canceled after making it all the way to the trigger shot. Countless blood draws and ultrasounds. Hours of driving to and from the clinic. First, bad news about my husband’s numbers. Then, bad news about mine. We worked with the

(Yes, fun. Or at least interesting.) IVF is heavy. It’s emotional, expensive, exhausting, and often overwhelming. But along the way, you start learning things you never expected to know. Some of them are strange. Some are fascinating. Some are oddly comforting. So here are a few facts about IVF that surprised me. IVF has been around longer than you think. The first IVF baby was born in 1978. Which means IVF is not new, experimental, or some futuristic science project. Million

Infertility changes a marriage. It asks more than you ever expected to give. And somewhere along the way, quietly, you look at the person beside you and know you would choose them again. Knowing what you know now, feeling what you have felt, you would still choose this road and this partner. It begins to feel like you were meant to find each other for this reason, to do this together. And that knowing carries you forward.

Starting IVF wasn’t an automatic choice for us. It took five years to reach a place where we could look at each other and say, “Okay. We’re ready.” If you had asked me even a month ago whether I would do IVF, I would have said no. I had always believed it was a hard road. I knew it involved hormone injections that change your body and your mood. For a long time, I didn’t think I was emotionally strong enough to handle that. IVF felt like it would require more physical, emotio

The holidays are not always merry and bright. Some of us are grieving the loss of a loved one. For others, it’s a financially trying time. There’s a reason so many of us wish we could be kids again. Back when the season was simple. Colorful. Low stakes. Speaking of kids, have you noticed that nearly every major holiday toward the end of the year is aggressively kid centric? Kids everywhere. First comes Halloween. Mini Superman costumes and tiny princess gowns start lining the

Infertility comes in a lot of flavors. None of them are good. Some of us are grieving loss, or repeated loss. Some are navigating multiple rounds of IVF, some successful, some devastating. Some of us, like me, have never even seen a positive pregnancy test. Some people have been on this journey for six months. Others for ten years. Different paths, same exhaustion. One thing we all have in common is the steady stream of well meaning reassurances from people who genuinely want

Denial and hope live together. Not next door neighbors, roommates. Like share a bathroom, steal each other’s snacks, finish each other’s sentences roommates. Some say there’s a fine line between denial and hope, but honestly that’s nonsense. They’re not separated by a line. They’re basically conjoined twins. You feel them at the same time, constantly, especially when health gets involved. Especially when fertility gets involved. Infertility journeys are all wildly different,